Mike Tramp asked:


Seniors entering the dating world does happen every day. The most complicated thing about dating when you are a senior is that you have probably been in a long relationship and are somewhat reluctant because dating has changed and the way you do things is so much more different from the early days of dating. Many older women who have loss a loved one choose to be careful about who they talk to or what they do. Many join church groups and senior centers to meet new people. Older men have a feeling of loneliness, but feel they will never meet anyone to love again.

The senior dating world is different from what younger people dating. A man might ask a woman to see a movie or go to play a game of bingo. This is still considered a date. As elderly people become closer, they spend time with each other’s families and getting to know the families better. In time, some seniors do find the next love of their life and do marry. For the ones that shy away from dating, they might need some encouragement from family members. Today, dating seniors do take trips together and spend time at lake cottages and just go out for drinks and enjoy each other’s company.

Senior dating should feel good and know one should feel awkward. First meetings are always fun when you are around other people. This is not only easier, but it takes the pressure off both parties. Once you feel comfortable about each other, it makes the first date go smoother than if it was their first time you were together. You might meet someone in the grocery store, a bank teller you work with every time you enter the bank or even someone at one of the restaurants you frequent.

Some men and woman do not know what to do on a first date. The first date can be dinner and a movie or just a long dinner. Here is where you can get to know each other and talk about things that have happened in your lives and what you want in the future. Elderly people seem to need some future outlook as to what they want the rest of their life to be like. This is fine to express this and both parties will know the other wants. Seniors are more set in their ways, which might cause some friction after a few dates, but that is why it is dating. If you do not want another date, you can say no.

When you start dating as a senior, you want your family to respect your wishes and be nice to anyone you bring home for them to meet. After all, if everything goes well, they might be getting a new member of the family. It is scary to start dating so late in life, but it is not impossible to do and find someone to share your life with and be happy and feel fulfilled.

David Kamau asked:


When it comes to online dating, most senior singles create obstacles before giving themselves a chance. Let’s take a look at some common obstacles to senior dating success.

“I’m not good with computers.”

One of the main obstacles to online dating for older people is technophobia, though this is fading. Knowing this reputable dating sites make it as easy on you as possible through step by step guidelines. If all you can do is click the mouse and type with two fingers, you’re good to go.

“All the good ones are taken.”

True, the population of available singles narrows with age. But there still are still lots of potential partners out there. Surveys by dating sites indicate that the fastest growing demographic in internet dating is over 40 years old. Leading senior dating sites have databases of millions of senior singles.

“My family won’t understand.”

Another big obstacle: Having to look over your shoulder for approval from family members. Think of how a new relationship might benefit you by increasing your personal happiness. Except in peculiar circumstances, your personal happiness would in most likely rub on those closest to you in a good way.

“My *** life is over.”

Barring physical or psychological problems requiring expert or medical help, *** life need not be over because of age. Many older people report healthy and active *** lives well into old age.

“Someone might find out.”

This is one of the reasons given for not trying online dating. Consider this: what are the odds of someone coming across your ad among millions of others in one of the hundreds of dating sites out there? And, what would they be doing there anyway if not at least entertaining the idea of dating online themselves?

“It’s not safe.”

Horror stories in the press about online dating experiences keep senior singles away from this dating method. Negative news is what sells and naturally, will receive greater publicity. What the press does not say is that most of the negative experiences have their origins in free chat rooms. Dating site membership fees keep most havoc-wreckers away (why pay to wreck havoc when you can do it for free?).

“I want to lose some weight first.”

This and similar self-improvement “reasons” are excuses older people use to postpone dating. Understandable, as it may be, waiting until you are perfect will only prolong your loneliness. Get there and start finding your mate, then begin working on your physical imperfections.

“I will look naughty, desperate or *********.”

There are senior dating services and senior dating sites dedicated to older people seeking partners within their age group. Young people are not allowed on these sites. Most of the senior singles in these sites are sincere, lively people who have or have been in thriving and respectable careers.

Yes, senior dating online is alive, vibrant and very decent. Give it at try. It works.